Wednesday, July 25, 2012
After Divorce ...
When he gets a divorce can be emotionally devastating for one or both spouses. However, it is an interesting opportunity to leave behind old paradigms and prepare to enter a new phase of your life. Do you still feel like that person to contact to celebrate a happy moment of your life?
To overcome this, you have to take action and consolidate your position regarding the process after the divorce.
1) Do you actually tell stories. Divorce is a fertile time to identify your core values and beliefs and subconscious programming that you have. Look what you think. Are you good enough to maintain a new relationship? Do not you deserve to be happy? Are you worthy of being loved?
Such thoughts can sabotage overcoming divorce quickly and presented in other areas of your life (finances, employment, personal health, etc.).. Write them in your journal. This is the first step to expose everything that hurts you. With that awareness, you can begin to make more conscious and free yourself from the past.
2) One day at a time. Take life day by day and celebrate each victory. There will be times that exacerbate the pain of divorce, so be prepared. Try to fill the empty space divorce leaves you with activities you enjoy doing or spends time with friends, plan a writing session, talking on the phone or read alone. It is important to take care both psychologically and physically.
3) take counsel yourself. If you have a dear friend who struggles with a broken heart, imagine what advice would you, would it be easier than you were tender? Would you have compassion and patience for your friend? Take counsel, as this will help to leave the stage after the divorce.
4) Restructure your environment. Take the time to free up space in your environment. Delete all text messages from your ex that you have stored on your cell phone. Do not cling to them after divorce no longer serve.
5) Count your blessings. Marriage is one of the best teachers to teach us who we are. It brings new pieces to you and how well you do in a marriage, what did you learn about it, what worked for you, what would you do different things in a close marriage, etc..
Think your kids are a blessing to you, so gifted to overcome divorce. He speaks of the blessings that you aloud or write them in your journal.
If you count your blessings will help you find the balance you need. Take the time you want. What you learn will increase your heart and take you to the healing path.
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